I was delighted to see in Sunday’s New York Times that David Sedaris read the orange
biographies as child. I believe I read them all—everything that the
children’s library in Marblehead ,
MA
had to offer. These were the stories of
“great Americans.” The list that I recall
included Abraham Lincoln, Clara Barton, and Wyatt Earp.
Looking back I think that even in third grade I found the
personal narrative captivating and inspiring. If I was going to be a great American, these
were the books to read.
I suppose I have given up my aspiration for greatness. But I have not relinquished my passion for
stories, the stories of a life. This has
sustained me over decades in the practice of psychotherapy. My job is mostly about helping people tell
their stories. I wrote in a blog several
months ago (May 16, 2011 http://www.huffingtonpost.com/may-benatar-phd-lcsw/personal-narrative-healing_b_862285.html)
about the value of creating the coherent personal narrative and the role of the
therapist in this creation, this construction.
Sometimes it’s like solving a thousand piece puzzle, the story is
jumbled, chaotic, fragmented. Sometimes
it is like picking out threads from a weave tangled with other people’s version
of our story—“Mom said I was this kind of a child/person. Auntie M. thought I was better than that.”
Sometimes there are holes as big as a truck in the story of
one’s life—the individual seemingly retaining only crumbs of a history. Figuring
out what one’s own story is, from one’s own perspective, is both challenging
and fascinating.
The enterprise of constructing a coherent narrative of one’s
life is mostly a cognitive process.
With the support and guidance of a skilled, empathic and alert listener,
i.e. the psychotherapist, we come to understand how we got where we are, what
has motivated, shaped, and had meaning for us.
We get to claim our own experience, from the inside out. This is powerfully healing all by itself.
I have recently been learning about another kind of narrative: the narrative of the body or the “felt
sense.” There are two new-ish techniques
in which therapist’s are being trained, adding to their store of tools. These techniques go beyond the verbal, the
cognitive, beyond the prefrontal cortex so to speak. Developed to work with trauma, Somatic
Experiencing (SE) and Sensorimotor Psychotherapy (SP) focus attention from the
grass roots, so to speak: Pat Ogden (founder of the Sensorimotor Psychotherapy
Institute) refers to this as moving from the bottom up, felt experience, versus
working from the top down, a more cognitive process. The basic assumption is that the human
nervous system is not unlike other mammalian nervous systems which have a self
correcting, self healing potential. Peter
Levine (the developer of SE) reports that wild animals face trauma every day,
and seem to bounce back within minutes of surviving a life threatening
experience. Trauma does not de-rail
them. There is no PTSD in the wild.
These new technologies which are being learned and mastered
by practitioners around the world, tune in to a very different story: the story stored in our body, in our “felt
sense.” Interestingly the stories that
have been lost to the cognitive narrative, may be stored in the body and be
accessible if one pays a certain kind of attention. The body may have a very different story than
the “remembered” story.
Next time you have a back ache, a bellyache, an attack of
anxiety: tune in for a few minutes,
place your attention on the sensation and track it with your awareness. Watch what happens: does it change? Does it move?
Does it yield any information, image, anything? Does tuning in make you
want to move or gesture in a certain way?
Doing this will give
you a taste of what these new techniques are like.
For more information see www.traumahealing.com and/or www.sensorimotorpsychotherapy.org
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